So I was talking to my mom and told her that I told my sister she has to take her health very seriously, especially anything that could remotely relate to cancer, “because you do have a grandmother who died of lung cancer, Sizzle.”
“And which grandmother would that be?” asked my mother.
“Um… your mom? Mammy? She died of lung cancer.”
“Nnn… No, I’m not sure she did.”
“She didn’t? All these years, I thought that’s how she died. Twenty-seven years, I’ve been telling doctors that’s how she died. How did she die, then?”
“You know, I’m not really sure. My doctor asked me the same thing yesterday, and I couldn’t tell him, either. I think it was something to do with her liver.”
“Well, that would be good information to tell my doctors. They would take me more seriously about Lupus. Was she a big drinker?”
“No, not at all. She did eat a lot of bacon, though.” LOL. “That’s what I like to tell my doctors.”
And then I brought up a certain other person in the family history that we should maybe worry about and asked if that person died of lung cancer, because I thought that was the case, but hey, I’d also always thought my grandmother had died of cancer.
Bikermommy said, “I’m not really sure about that one, either, but she drank and smoked all the time. She’s another one who died really fast.”
“Did Mammy die fast?” At this point, I was still baffled by the fact that I don’t know how my grandmother died.
“Yeah, from diagnosis until the time she died was about three weeks.”
“Well, was she sick for a while before she got diagnosed, though?” I asked.
My mom said, “No, not really. She did have a little heart trouble, though. Just some palpitations.”
I said, “Oh, like [another person in our family]. But the doctors are so much better today and have much better equipment.”
“Ok, so you never wanted to know how she died? You didn’t think that was important? Like for your medical history or anything like that?”
“I guess I just… no, not really. I never really asked. I always thought it was her liver. I should probably find that out.”
“Yes, ok. So you let me know when you find out.”
??? It’s so weird. I don’t even know how my grandmother died. I wonder if it’s true that she died when I was three.