wedding plans
i think we’ve decided on Texas and a general time frame of October-November for the wedding. now we just have to come up with:
exact date
location for the wedding and, if different, the reception
karaoke selections for the reception (oh yeah, we’re really gonna have karaoke at our reception, and it’s gonna rock)
food
cakes - anyone know how to make a molten chocolate cake in the shape of a 1911? cause that would be cool.
music
flowers and candles and all that other stuff
minister
guest list
i should probably find a dress and jewelry and shoes and all that
maid/matron of honor dress & shoes
invitations
honeymoon reservations
wedding bands
photographer…
i don’t think we want a fancy videographer, can we just give our video camera to someone and say, here, film the wedding?
program
little party favor thingies
how we’re exiting the reception
i know i’m leaving out a bunch of stuff. yeah, not stressing out…
I noted you said ‘minister’. Not to stir up controversy, but isn’t FrankJ Catholic? In which case, there’s usually a couple of months of Pre-Cana one needs to attend, and a Priest does the ceremony.
If it’s not happening in the Church, there’s just one point - a marriage outside the Church is considered illicit, and Frank would have to forego the sacraments.
If there is reason to not get married in a Church with a Priest - for instance, if it could cause a family rift, or you have a ’special relationship’ with the minister that is marrying you, you can get a ‘Dispensation from Canonical Form’ from the Bishop ahead of time: you typically go through Pre-Cana in any case, I guess. Ask a pro.
I believe it’s also possible for a marriage to be convalidated thereafter - I’m fuzzier on the whys and wherefores of this, and I don’t know it’s a sure thing - it might need to go to tribunal - again, ask a Pro. But, the time between the Marriage and the convalidation, Frank still can’t receive the sacraments. Which means if you (accidently, I’m sure) kill him on your wedding night, his soul will speed directly to hell. Or something. :-0
One other thing to remember - as conceived in the Roman Rite, a Priest doesn’t marry you - you marry each other, acting efficatiously in the role of (common) priest: it’s the only Sacrament of its kind.
The (sacramental) Priest is supposed to be there to sanctify and give witness to the Marriage, thus making it licit: harkening back to the original Cana: Jesus was definitely a guest, but what lasted from the wedding, the thing that transcended time and space, was Jesus’ miracle. (One could safely presume, even though its not in the bible, that those wedded at Cana, in the face of such an event, didn’t, in fact, divorce - despite divorce being relatively easy at the time). The ‘witness’ part is both a formality of Canon law, and (like the ‘witness’ in the term ‘christian witness’ you are probably familiar with) a statement of the Truth of the Marriage.
Of course, it’s possible that Frank knows all this and is counting on it.(j/k;-).
April 17th, 2005 at 10:30 pmPersonally, I think it all sounds wonderful, Sarah :) I might even nab that 1911 cake idea for my wedding when the time comes.
As for the exiting the reception… you need one of those Cadillacs with the steer horns as the hood ornament. It is going to be in Texas after all :)
April 17th, 2005 at 11:07 pmSuggestions for your wedding:
1. Have at least two or three friends take photos and or video the wedding and then you can have the video and photos put together on a DVD. A formal videographer is not necessary and it will look just as good after all of the editing is done on a computer. (My husband does digital video editing — www.SSPvideo.com)
2. We used bubbles at our wedding and it was so much fun for all the guests to blow bubbles at us as we made our getaway.
3. Use silk flowers in some of your altar display or table displays. I used them at my wedding and then I took some home and my mother got some too so we have something of the wedding and the colors as a keepsake.
PS: I’m getting my own blog soon www.digitalKaren.com, but it’s not up yet. I will keep you apprised.
April 17th, 2005 at 11:16 pmhey, I won’t worry you with advice (cause none of mine is worth a thing), but you get married in Texas, me and Pat would love to be there for you guys.
unless it’s in El Paso. that’s further from here than Melbourne!
;)
April 17th, 2005 at 11:29 pmOh fun! I went to a wedding last fall in Texas and they had karoake during the reception…it was the funnest wedding reception ever! You’re gonna have a blast! YAY YOU!
April 18th, 2005 at 12:14 amaw, we’d talked about karaoke at our wedding, but it didn’t happen. oh well.
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OR
http://www.honeymoonsinc.com/GrandLidoBraco-Weddings.asp
April 18th, 2005 at 1:30 amexact date - October 31
location for the wedding and, if different, the reception - Perry Eat n’ Go, off of Route 35
karaoke selections for the reception - AC/DC, Devo, and the best of the Indigo Girls
food - a dish featuring Japanese Squid, prepared by two chefs in a 60-minute competition. Ashaso Kishi will judge.
cakes – how about instead of “1911″ a “9/11″, with the little groom shooting terorist dead.
music - Bagpipes, and nothing but
flowers and candles and all that other stuff - Gotten by others in Panhandle-wide scavenger hunt. Extra points for a Spongebob Squarepants off of a Burger King.
minister - The Pope, who will later be named
guest list - Two-Term Presidents only
dress and jewelry and shoes and all that maid/matron of honor dress & shoes - Yours is to be borrowed from the Di/Charles Wedding; everyone else wears glad bags and flip-flops
invitations - tied to a brick and thrown through windows
honeymoon reservations - Castle Greyskull, complete with continental breakfast
wedding bands - Steppenwolf, maybe a Pink Floyd return
photographer - I’m monitoring all your moves as we speak
Videographer - See above (and see you seeing above)
little party favor thingies - spare ammo
April 18th, 2005 at 7:17 amSarahK, SarahK, SarahK…(Shakes head ruefully)…You have some growing to do little one. Only one thing really matters, and that’s the wedding night (tee-hee). Everything else is just gravy. So when choosing a hotel, make sure you get one with a decent restaurant. There’s more to life than snuggling.
Oh and for Frank’s sake, make sure the mini-bar has Guiness.
April 18th, 2005 at 8:54 amGeesh, I forgot to mention, that wedding video needs two things, SPLOSIONS & ZOMBIES!!!
That would be so cool.
April 18th, 2005 at 8:56 amSarah, delegate! The favors and thingies made by your bridesmaids, etc. . . The less you have to do, the better ;) Wish I lived in Texas.
April 18th, 2005 at 10:07 amtake a deep breath….there, just take it one step at a time.
April 18th, 2005 at 10:27 amWith the help of family and friends all will be fine.
This whole eloping idea sure sounds simpler…
April 18th, 2005 at 10:52 amHee - my dad offered me 5K to elope. Glad I didn’t because the kiddies like seeing the video (done by my cousin, who forgot that people stand when the bride comes in. So when I started my processional and everybody stood, we’re treated to an “oh, s###” - in a Catholic Church no less. heehee)
April 18th, 2005 at 11:36 amhoney…no stressing! concentrate on the fun for you and Frank and less on the show for the rest of us! your mommy and little sizzle will be there for you. hey, can any of your biker friends come? what about Palo Duro Canyon? It’s a miniature Grand Canyon if you ask me…
April 18th, 2005 at 3:13 pmI think it would be cool to arrange it so that, when the minister asked “is there anyone here with a reason these two should not be wed?” you have a band of ninjas burst into the chapel for Frank J to fight (technically, that should be the best man’s job, but I think Frank would want to join in). Then, when the ninjas have been defeated, the minister can say “there being no reason…”
THAT would make a cool wedding video!
April 18th, 2005 at 3:30 pmHow will you be wearing your hair?? (I think that’s the only thing you forgot).
April 18th, 2005 at 6:20 pm